For same-sex couples living in states where neither marriage equality nor relationship recognition (in the form of domestic partnerships or civil unions) has arrived, none of the above is necessarily true. This New York Times article describes the reality for one lesbian couple raising their children in Michigan.
Discrimination by Complication: Same-Sex Parents Must Do More
For same-sex couples living in states where neither marriage equality nor relationship recognition (in the form of domestic partnerships or civil unions) has arrived, none of the above is necessarily true. This New York Times article describes the reality for one lesbian couple raising their children in Michigan.

